Good dad, bad dad
Which Dad do I want to be?
Do you blame your kids? Set up the rules, not follow rules get punishment instant? Do not listen, instant punishment. You got everything well organized, clean, "Well" behaved children.
But your kids hate you, scare of you, keep away from you.
Or you never blame kids, not mention the punishment. You got a glass broken iphone and key fall off laptop.
You got pee on carpet. You got poop on the floor. You got food debris and juice all over the place, sofa, carpet, drawer. You got dirty cloth. Buy any toy they want return it when they lost interest not more than 3 days.
To my 10 years old son, I used to be the former dad, I realized it is not going to be work. I failed to be a qualified dad, don't even mention "GOOD".
My 2 year old boy want to hold my iphone, my wife let him have. He fall on the side walk in the park. The front glass hit the concrete surface and broken. This drop worth 2 hundreds dollars. I blame boy, my wife stop me. Hug the boy, comfort him.
Another time, 3 year old boy pull the space key off the laptop. Broken the key hook, can't put it back.
I start to blame him, my wife stop me.
Do not mention knock over a glass of milk, juice, coke. Do not mention cookie and cake debris everywhere.
If those do not happen in a day, that is an un-usual.
My wife never blame kids, she got paper cloth, broom to clean it up.
I realized, my wife is right. I am wrong.
Then I become this not responsive dad.
Four my kids were running, chasing, screaming, yelling in the old navy store. They throw the toy, ball all the floor. A store staff come to me telling me to keep my kids stop running to avoid run into hurt other customer.
I do not say anything. My oldest boy ask me what did she say? I said nothing keep playing.
When we about to leave, it only took me 2 minutes to put back the toys, balls, clothing on the shelf.
I told my wife after, my wife said, Don't mention our kids hurt other customer. She worry about other customer hurt my children.
At Walmart, two of my 2 year old girl play the fountain, click on/off the water. A young mom of 2 children saw that and remind me their sleeve are going to be all wet. I said, it is ok, I let them play.
Do not blame children, instead clean, organize after will make your kids smile and love you for ever.
Do you blame your kids? Set up the rules, not follow rules get punishment instant? Do not listen, instant punishment. You got everything well organized, clean, "Well" behaved children.
But your kids hate you, scare of you, keep away from you.
Or you never blame kids, not mention the punishment. You got a glass broken iphone and key fall off laptop.
You got pee on carpet. You got poop on the floor. You got food debris and juice all over the place, sofa, carpet, drawer. You got dirty cloth. Buy any toy they want return it when they lost interest not more than 3 days.
To my 10 years old son, I used to be the former dad, I realized it is not going to be work. I failed to be a qualified dad, don't even mention "GOOD".
My 2 year old boy want to hold my iphone, my wife let him have. He fall on the side walk in the park. The front glass hit the concrete surface and broken. This drop worth 2 hundreds dollars. I blame boy, my wife stop me. Hug the boy, comfort him.
Another time, 3 year old boy pull the space key off the laptop. Broken the key hook, can't put it back.
I start to blame him, my wife stop me.
Do not mention knock over a glass of milk, juice, coke. Do not mention cookie and cake debris everywhere.
If those do not happen in a day, that is an un-usual.
My wife never blame kids, she got paper cloth, broom to clean it up.
I realized, my wife is right. I am wrong.
Then I become this not responsive dad.
Four my kids were running, chasing, screaming, yelling in the old navy store. They throw the toy, ball all the floor. A store staff come to me telling me to keep my kids stop running to avoid run into hurt other customer.
I do not say anything. My oldest boy ask me what did she say? I said nothing keep playing.
When we about to leave, it only took me 2 minutes to put back the toys, balls, clothing on the shelf.
I told my wife after, my wife said, Don't mention our kids hurt other customer. She worry about other customer hurt my children.
At Walmart, two of my 2 year old girl play the fountain, click on/off the water. A young mom of 2 children saw that and remind me their sleeve are going to be all wet. I said, it is ok, I let them play.
Do not blame children, instead clean, organize after will make your kids smile and love you for ever.
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