If You Had Controlling Parents 控制欲极强的父母有如下特点：

控制欲极强的父母有如下特点：

1.与孩子的交流沟通全部只集中在谁是正确的，谁是错误的，谁赢了这场争论，谁输了，

2.对孩子的诉苦漠不关心。经常给孩子撒播一些让孩子焦虑恐惧的情绪，然后就如无其事的走开。

比如说，你不好好学习，以后就如何如何，你不听我的，干什么，以后就如何如何，

3.控制欲极强的父母典型的洗脑四部曲是这样的：
    3.1 先给孩子散播一些令孩子焦虑恐惧的情绪，营造一个怀有敌意的不利成长的环境。
    3.2 怪罪孩子制造了这个不利成长的环境，
    3.3 当孩子在这个父母一手建立的不利的成长环境里，遭受到挫折失败或者不幸的后果的时候，
          再次把所有的错都归结到孩子身上，认为是孩子本身的问题导致不幸后果。
    3.4 永远不承认自己做错过任何事。


Dysfunctional Communication“…Dysfunctional communication focuses primarily on who is right and who is wrong, who wins and who loses, who gets hurt and who avoids pain.”


Controlling parents are generally disinterested in exploring their adult children’s grievances with them. Many controlling parents spill emotional angst in their children’s laps and then just walk away


“In essence, controlling parents brainwash with a one-two-three-four punch:

1.Creating an environment hostile to growth.
2.Blaming the children for creating the environment.
3.Criticizing their children when the children suffer the consequences of the environment the parents created.
4.Denying doing any of this.